We'reOkay

July 31, 2019 There are a million and one things that constantly grab our attention every day. Those things can be but are surely not limited to our phones, computers, social media, our significant others, friends and even family.  Despite what we tell ourselves were addicted. We are addicts to the lives of others; the amount of times we check our phones and compare ourselves to the person looking happy on other side invalidates our outlook on ourselves. One of the things we forget when we become addicted to this fantasy is the positive attention, we need to put on ourselves. For some this may sound like some weird conspiracy theory that you’ve heard so many times but don’t want to believe, but for others you might think well hey you’re right maybe I should focus some time on myself, but where do I even begin?  Well hold your horses I’m not saying to drop everything you’ve ever known; drop all the people you’ve ever cared about or throw your phone out the window; because we all k

The idea of self-love has always been a complex subject for me to wrap my head around. I mean it sounds like something so simple and you would think the basis of our existence on this earth would be to love the one and only definite thing that we’ll ever know—ourselves. Unfortunately, for many, including myself, the journey to self-love hasn’t always been so kind. As a sexual and emotional abuse survivor finding myself was not always something that I knew I needed to do. However, the past few years have made me so grateful for the “body positive” movement because it has challenged me to destroy negative body image ideals that I once had. With tremendous weight gain during high school followed by tremendous weight loss after the end of a toxic 5 year relationship and then the regain of weight upon entering a healthy relationship all the while battling high anxiety and depression, my idea of what a “beautiful body” was was very skewed. Watching other women truly put their whole selves, “